Relationship & Faith
For the past 2 Fridays I have been posting directly from the Jesus Calling devotional, like I do every year. I use the last three weeks of December to take a slight break from Seele to refuel and quiet myself from the year and the holiday rush. The voice that Sarah Young, the writer of each devotional, is writing in is the voice our Triune God- as if he is sitting across the table speaking directly to you.
It’s possible to know a lot of people, especially if you’re a networker by nature or if you live in professional multi-cultural cities like Washington, DC and Brussels. But knowing a lot of people does not make them your friends. And having discernment about who accesses you is a key piece of wisdom I wish I knew 10 years ago.
In our busy lives we can lose sight of the fact that relationships don’t work unless we do, and that we must make an effort to invest into people. People don’t know what you mean to them unless you tell them. There are some things that must be professed with our mouths.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
When it’s time to move on from a thing God will let you know and confirm it. And sure, God understands your attachment to the old thing. And sure, there might need to be a period of mourning and sulking. But after time has passed, you’ll sense God saying “You have mourned long enough for this thing, and it's time to let it go.”
It’s common to have a lot of people around you in your early 20s, but as you mature in your 20s, you realize that you’d rather have a few quarters around you than lots of pennies.
When we’re nit-picking, living in dissension with others, always finding fault with others, or trying to tell others about themselves in an unconstructive way it’s a clear mirror of what’s going on in our hearts.
Sex, porn, adultery- the latter two which can give but a moment of pleasure and satisfaction, but in the long-term leaves you feeling empty, broken, and frustrated.
A boundary-less life is a life out of control. You’re bad with boundaries when you feel resentful, because you have allowed someone to take too much from you without your having drawn a line somewhere.
"The human body reacts to the sight, entertained by the imagination and gives you all kinds of false hints that stolen waters are going to be sweeter. They’re not. They leave you emptier.” Ravi Zacharias
It’s a lot of work to raise a child, but a real man will lead his family and raise the seeds he has planted. And, a real woman will lead her home and raise the seeds that have been planted inside of her.
But before writing this post I asked random people- Christian and non- if it’s necessary to have boundaries if one friend likes the other. And both males and females, who were honest and mature said yes. Boundaries will vary from person to person- situation to situation, but they are needed.
I want to slightly expand on the topic of friendship again, but take a slightly different twist on the topic by looking at marriage + if it all goes wrong + the pain that comes from it = the importance of choosing the right friends.
Millenials struggle with commitment of all kinds- job, church, brand loyalty... and especially relationships. Likely you have been either on the giving or receiving end of fear of commitment in a relationship. This manifests itself in several ways.